Jealous and Insecure

Overcoming jealousy must be like overcoming alcoholism. First step, admit I have a problem with it, then stay as far away from it as possible.

In trying to overcome my jealousy, I have researched what it is, what triggers it, and how to avoid it.

First I had to understand what causes jealousy. I found that Jealousy is the fear of losing something that you believe to already be yours.

So jealousy comes from fear. Fear brings insecurity. I am well acquainted with that too. Ask me to speak publicly and because of lack of experience I will instantly be insecure and fearful. People are insecure because of lack of self confidence.

In order to overcome jealousy, I have to deal with my insecurities first.

Some of us have so much love inside, but our insecurities make us fearful. When we are fearful we become unkind, competitive, controlling and mean-spirited. Instead of baring our insecurities, we cover them up with pretense. We could say, "I'm insecure", "I'm scared", but instead we bluff to cover up our own insecurity and then the meanness happens.

If you want the jealousy to go away, so too does the insecurities.